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Rediscovering YOU in 2011
Identifying Your Goals for the New Year
January 01, 2011Happy New Year! If you are like me, you have taken a deep breathe from creating all the holiday magic and are looking forward to a great 2011. With a New Year comes the opportunity to recreate or even reinvent yourself. I always find it exciting to take note of the past year and make plans for the new one.
Several years ago, I had a New Year's that was especially exciting for my husband and me. I had my first baby 11 years ago on January 5th. I thought she was going to be a New Year's Eve baby, but back in 2000, we were all so scared of the possibility of Y2K (remember that?) that I prayed for my baby to hold on a few extra days. She held on for a few more days and I marked the new millennium with a new baby and a new me.
We all know that becoming a mother changes everything. It not only changes your heart (which I proudly wear on my sleeve now), but it changes when you sleep, how you sleep or even if you sleep at all. For me, it changed my shoe size, my hair color and I swear my nose got bigger every time I had a baby. It also made me a more patient person, more tolerant of just about everything and eternally grateful for the gift of life.
In the chaos of motherhood, it's sometimes hard to take the time to slow down and really think of all the ways that we, as women and moms, have evolved and changed over the years. Eleven years ago I could have never imagined that I could juggle schedules and family chaos while typing an email, signing a permission slip and writing this column at the same time. I have become, do to on-the-job training, an expert multi-tasker.
Whether I know it or not, a New Year somehow always brings a new "me" into the light. It happens so gradually that it is hard to notice, but I encourage you to take note of all the ways motherhood has made you evolve and grow this year. If there are areas you want to explore, now is the perfect time to identify what they are and reinvent yourself in 2011! Whether it be learning how to cook, taking an art class, joining a book club, reading more to your kids (or yourself), going to church regularly, having a date night, having a girls night, having a family night—whatever it is, identify it and go for it this year!
The week after New Year's I always meet my best friend for coffee. It has unknowingly become a tradition for us since having kids. We recap the year together and talk about the highs the lows and what we learned from it all. In years past, we have sat and laughed about the madness of motherhood and some years we have sat and cried from the pain or frustration that came in certain moments over the year. Regardless, we always celebrate it and share how we want to grow in the year to come. By saying it out loud to my trusted friend, I usually feel empowered and excited to evolve and grow in the upcoming year. For instance, last year I mentioned to her that I really want to start cooking healthier for my family. Every so often she would send me a recipe, call me with a tip she saw or heard or even just flat out ask me how my goal for cooking healthier was going. It helped me be more accountable to have her know that this was something I really wanted to do for my family and me. Her interest in my goal only inspired me to stay with it and continue to reinvent myself into a better cook! They say that the best way to be accountable to yourself is to tell others about your goals—you're more inclined to follow through.
Whatever it is that you want to do this year, look at is as an opportunity to not only try something new, but to grow and maybe even reinvent yourself in a specific area in the New Year!
Mary Susan Buhner is a Life Coach for Moms and author of "Mommy Magic: Tricks for Staying Sane in the Midst of Insanity." Visit her Web site at www.Mommy-Magic.com.