Tags: In This Issue, Parenting
I have a sign at my desk that props against my computer. I see it every day, but I am usually distracted when I sit down for 2.5 seconds to read an e-mail (sound familiar?) so rarely do I find myself actually comprehending the words on it.
Today, however, as I sat down to write this month's column it caught my attention. I read it aloud as I sometimes do to help me actually process something important.
It reads: What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
I don't know about you, but sometimes I daydream about what I would or could do while at a stoplight, pumping gas, or checking out at the store. Many of us are fortunate enough to have the opportunity to maintain life with food, gas in our car, and shelter. All of which are very much blessings that many around the world do not know. For many of us, maintaining has or can become a way of life. Granted, it is a vital component to existing and having a happy and healthy family life. For that I am grateful, but sometimes I do stop and think to myself, What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
I would do a lot, I always tell myself. Run a marathon? Maybe. Have an amazing garden that I could cook fresh from its ingredients. Yes, for sure! Travel more? Sign me up! It dawned on me that to maintain our life, there will always be bills to pay, laundry to do and so on. The zest, the sparkle, the extra seasoning, the sizzle on the steak...well, that would have to come from me making the choice to push beyond maintaining and actually trying some of the things on my daydream list. It also dawned on me that it doesn't matter if I fail or not. What matters is if I don't try at all.
I recently had the opportunity to talk with someone who just celebrated their 95th birthday. I asked him what he thought the secret to a happy life was based on his almost 100 years alive.
His first comment made me chuckle, he stated, "Happy wife, happy life."
Smart man, I thought to myself. The second bit of advice was profound.
He said, "Life is not the year you were born or the year you die. Life is the dash in between those two dates." As I drove home, it occurred to me trying, failing, not failing...whatever the outcome...it does not matter for there is learning any way it turns out. The point is to try, push past the "just maintaining" mind set and live in the dash!
In the spirit of the New Year, like you, I count my blessings. I am grateful for my home, children, health, my husband's job, my work, and living in our wonderful country. I do, however, have some work to do to make sure my dash - you know the one between the two big dates - is significant. I hope you join me too in identifying those things and giving them a try in this year. Big, small, medium - no matter what the size of the goal it is worth working towards it.
Visit Mommy Magic's fan page on Facebook and post and share with other moms what it is you want to try this year. As moms, we should support, encourage and cheer each other to be the best we can be and seek out ways to live in the dash!
Blessings to you and your family and Happy New Year!
Mary Susan Buhner is a Life Coach for Moms and author of "Mommy Magic: Tricks for Staying Sane in the Midst of Insanity." Visit her Web site at www.Mommy-Magic.com.