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Making Moms Matter

Women who place their own health as a priority have family's interest at heart


May 2014

Lynn considers spending quality time with her three children of utmost importance. Trips to museums, parks, libraries, play group and music lessons, as well as kid-centered activities at home fill each day she is not at the office. At nap time she attacks cleaning, laundry and dinner preparations. After tucking her children in bed at night, she handles emails, bills and volunteer commitments before addressing the workload she brought from the office. Lynn leads a full life, but has no doubt that the pace she keeps is contributing to her Health issues and a surprising sense of feeling unfulfilled.

Many moms make caring for others their primary concern – with their own health last on the list. A woman can mistakenly believe that setting aside "mom time" is selfish, when in actuality, it is crucial for her physical and psychological health. Mary K. Beckwith, M.D., FAGOC has arrived at this conclusion from years of observing patients at Clearvista Women's Care in Indianapolis. "The single most important decision a woman can make for her health is to engage in stress management activities, such as exercise and self-nurturing endeavors. These generally lead a woman to make better choices about nutrition and fitness, as well as mental and spiritual health, allowing her to model positive habits to kids."

Laurie Hartman, M.Ed., Director of Compassion Care at Grace Church in Noblesville agrees. "We obey the flight attendant's instructions to don oxygen masks before helping children, so let's do the same with our emotional health; if we take care of ourselves first we can best help our families." Feeling drained from our everyday schedule doesn't give the fuel required to be present as a mom. "Our interests prior to motherhood may require more time than currently available, but don't cease them altogether," says Hartman. "If a two-hour women's study isn't possible, find a devotional to take short breaks with. If you can't run seven days a week, run four." She stresses the importance of human connections. "It is easy to become isolated with the tasks of Parenting. Schedule date night once a week and regular commitments with friends." Moms who remember that being "good enough" is permissible can cast off the burdensome pursuit of perfection.

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Tags: Health, In This Issue, Parenting

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