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True Confessions of a Stay at Home Dad
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This is a blog about my life. My wife and I have three kids, ages six, three and one. Last year I gave up my gig as a middle school teacher to stay home with my kids full-time. This past year has been the most challenging, easy, relaxing, stressful, fun, tiring and rewarding year of my life.

My wife Amanda and I have been married for seven years. She spends her days (and nights and weekends) as an overworked Medical Resident.

Our oldest daughter, Eloise, is a bright, sweet, emotional first grader that loves to talk (she gets it from her mom). When not at school she is most likely playing dress up, turning some part of our house into a playroom, or creating a craft projects that involve: glue, magazines, markers, staples, stickers, scissors, crayons, pens, and a dozen sheets of paper.

Henry, the three year old middle child, is hell on wheels. There is not a house or store Henry cannot destroy in five to seven minutes max. He loves playing with his trucks, digging in his sandbox and occasionally putting on his sister’s pink plastic high heels.

Maggie, the one year old, is as sweet as they come. At a very early age she learned that her crying could barely be heard over the volume of her siblings. She has developed a blood curdling scream in order to get our attention that would make any horror movie producer proud.

Well there you have it, that’s pretty much my family in a nutshell.

DISCLAIMER: If you are looking for parenting advice you have come to the wrong place. Enjoy!

It Just Takes One

December 02, 2013 | 12:04 PM

When I first started out as a Stay at Home Dad, I had a couple of guy friends that I already knew that were staying home with their kids. The pressure was off. I didn't NEED to find someone to hang out with. I had these guys, already built into my social network.

Over the course of the last two and a half years though, one moved and one moved on. This time I was starting from scratch. There weren't any guys I knew staying home with their kids. I had a few choices, I could 1) Crawl into a corner and hide, crying in the fetal position everyday until my wife got home from work 2) Find a mom or two that was willing to take a dad into their group, deal with the awkwardness, but accept it. 3) reach out to find other dads to hang with. I knew they were out there, it was just a matter of finding them.

So it became my goal, to find one, just one dad, to hang out with once a week or so. Someone I could invite over and drink coffee with talking about sports and politics, while our kids played together and disassembled our house.

The first day of my kids' preschool the administrative lady came running over to me after she heard I was a stay at home dad to mention to me their was another "one of us" that also brought his kids to the school.

I've also been lucky enough to have a store near my house that has a dads group once a month. I've met some really nice dads that way as well. Every time I go, I meet someone else new. It's always fun to hear their story about how they ended up where they are.

So, my point is, if you are new to the stay at home parenting thing, don't think of it as having to find a whole new network of people to be around, just one. You will have to leave your house and put a little effort into it though. Get out there, it may not seem like there are any other stay at home parents where you are, but just keep looking. It just takes one.

-Pete


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