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Grew in my Heart: Through Adoption
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Hi! I'm Sarah, mom of two beautiful boys, Isaac and Ezra. I am married the most amazing man, Joe. I am an adoption advocate, an adoptive mom and was featured on season 2 of Oxygen's, "I'm Having Their Baby" which tells the story of our first failed adoption match. In this series, I will focus on the trials and tribulations of adoption as well as all the amazing experiences we've had in the process. I had a million questions and never knew how to find the answers, so it was all live and learn. I hope to share my experience with you, whether you are considering adoption for yourself or you know someone who is, I want to make the once taboo subject something people aren't afraid to talk about. Adoption can be a roller coaster of fun and fear, come along for the ride on ours.
Follow Up to TV Premier
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Follow Up to TV Premier

"I'm Having Their Baby"


Sarah Baker | June 25, 2013 | 02:09 PM

I don't even know where to begin. An hour long show (43 minutes with commercials) is hardly enough time to accurately portray a 7 month long relationship during a pregnancy with the many ups and downs and emotions that go with adoption. The show title "I'm Having Their Baby", implies something entirely different than what it is. It sounds like a show about surrogacy… or that these expecting mothers are required to place their child for adoption to the couple they have chosen.

Obviously that's not what happened in our story. If you haven't watched, here is the link to our episode: http://im-having-their-baby.oxygen.com/blogs/premiere-full-episode . If you did watch, here's the recap: Mike, the father, was against the adoption, but developed a close bond with us, the adoption fell apart (we did not back out as the show implies), Tory picked another family, then Tory decided after delivering to parent her baby girl, now she and Mike are engaged.

It was very painful to watch the show and relive those emotions… but what started as pain, turned to anger while watching. We agreed to do the show because we wanted to support Tory in her decision to film her story. She decided to do it to show women the beauty of adoption, opposed to choosing abortion. We wanted to share our journey with her and show our friendship and the ups and downs of adoption in hopes that other adoptive families could learn from our experience. Unfortunately, the show had to make cuts and edit scenes down. What we didn't anticipate though that those edits would tell the portion of the story they wanted to be told. It was not accurate in telling the truth of our journey. It focused primarily on the birth father wanting to keep the baby and the pain we all were putting him through. It didn't focus at all on the friendship we had with him, other than a small glimpse when he and my husband Joe had a good man to man talk about the adoption.

We were thrilled though that it did show a small glimpse of our happy ending in the recap at the end. Seeing our precious boy make his big TV debut was fun! There will be a follow up of us during the season finale as well and we will be attending a screening party that Westshore Pizza in Mason, Ohio is hosting.

I am going to try to move on from this experience and not focus on all the things that could have been shown differently… but if you have any questions about our episode, the adoption process or anything at all… please use the comment section below.


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